"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before."
Romance can sometimes be a big problem for the tough, skeptical ENTJ personality because ENTJs are not naturally in tune with other people's feelings. They are much more interested in intellectual pursuits and power. In the earlier stages of life, as adolescents, ENTJs can withdraw easily from romantic situations if they get hurt. They practice complete control of their emotions and impulses from a very early age and can block out romantic pursuits and even family if they are continuously hurt in relationships. They will not show that they're hurt, but will dramatically change their approach to people in that regard. Later in life, the same ENTJ can realize that some people are worth every effort.
What ENTJs look for in a mate...
ENTJs generally look for someone who is reliable, emotionally stable and not needy. They like people who can stand up to them and argue without losing their rationality.
Their high standards for everything apply to finding a partner as well. They will scrutinize their potential partner from a distance first, measuring every aspect of a person almost scientifically. An ENTJ male will look at a woman and ask millions of questions in his head before he goes into action: "Is she smart?", "Does she dress well?", "Is she good looking?", "Overly emotional?", "Is she elegant in her attitude?", "Is she healthy?" and so on...
What is the best love match for an ENTJ?
Intuitive people are generally more intrigued by other intuitive people and ENTJs are not an exception. They can fall in love with sensing people too, but are more likely to fall for another intuitive.
ENTJs generally get along great with: ENFP, INFP, ENTJ and INTJ personalities, but they will be interested in any relationship that offers growth and learning experiences. They will higly value and defend their relationships, especially those relationships which present them with new challenges and stimulate their learning.
For a deeper insight into relationships with all the other 15 types, read: ENTJ compatibility