INTJ + ENTJ relationships, compatibility, dating

As friends, coworkers or even lovers ENTJs and INTJs generally get along very well. Not only that, but this type of MBTI match is one of the most ideal.

Why is this match one of the most ideal?

When it comes to compatibility of MBTI types, there are lots of contradictory theories out there and each of them claims to have found the right formula. Some personality theorists say that opposites attract, some say similarities attract, others have a totally different approach.

However, the most common view is that couples are more likely to have similar preferences than opposite preferences. Those couples are also less likely to have problems in the relationship. This assertion is made in many published references (Carlson & Williams, 1984; Myers & McCaulley, 1985; Myers & Myers 1980; Sherman, 1981).

The most important similarity is the N/S dichotomy. N types generally understand each other better than they understand S types, and vice versa. This is also how David Keirsey matches personality types: common N or S and the same judging functions (Fe, Ti, Fi, Te).

ENTJs and INTJs have the same judging functions as well as the same perceiving functions. If any relationship can be seen as a soul mate experience then it's this one, or an identical ENTJ-ENTJ relationship. In the end it's only logical that someone who is just like you will understand you best.

What the relationship looks like...

ENTJs are usually happy with any relationship that can offer them growth and intellectual stimulation and the INTJ has a lot to offer in that respect. These types are often interested in the same things, have similar life philosophies and similar thinking patterns. This can make for hours of interesting conversations and debates and a feeling of mutual understanding.

It takes both these types quite some time to open up and many people are written off by them as not worthy of emotional attachment, so when they finally find someone who understands them on a deeper level it can be really intense and passionate.

What each type gets from the relationship...

- lots of stimulating conversations and idea exploring
- learning new things and sharing knowledge
- ENTJs learn to be more patient and reflective
- INTJs learn to act more and think less (yes, too much thinking/analyzing can be bad)
- a reliable partner in life who you can trust
- a low maintenance relationship with no emotional neediness or unnecessary drama
- a peaceful, structured and organized life which is important to both these types